5 Ways loneliness can help you.

Hello Unique.
I realized recently that an idea you have for a long time without been shared can become wasted, but when it keeps coming to your mind, then it means it got to be shared so others can learn from it. I know most of you will say, can any good thing comes from loneliness? And I will say yes because I have been in that state but temporarily, so this apply to temporary loneliness and not to the one’s that leads to depression.  Not all loneliness is bad if you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift it can be.

Loneliness can:
11.    Help you become independent;  a temporary loneliness can help you depend on you and no one else for anything, and you will be amazed how much you can do for yourself by not having anyone else but yourself to depend on. You will be able to think for yourself.

22.    Help to find yourself; if you want to find your trail, or blaze any trail, you must explore your dreams alone, if you expect to find people who will understand your dreams, you will grow murderous with disappointment , the best you can do is to understand yourself and go after your dream without caring who approves or who don’t and you won’t let the voice of others drown your inner voice.

33.     Help you appreciate the people in your life; after been alone for some time, you will find it easy to understand the uses of people around you and be able to appreciate what they contribute to your life.

44.    Help you know how strong you really are; you learn how strong you really are when you depend on no one but yourself for your happiness, I have made this mistake once; I was expecting someone else apart from myself to make me happy, boy! The let down was so great that it took me a long time to recover from the disappointment ,  nobody can make you happy if you can’t make yourself happy, and it just much responsibility to put on others.

55.    Help bring out a deeper you;  since you have more time to think and analize your life, you can be able to spot things that aint suppose to be there, things you keep doing that are not giving the result you want for yourself and with the help of God’s words you can find you. It one of the best times for you to figure out who you are and what you really want out of life. I found myself questioning my very existence and purposes and I was open minded enough to search every where I could and I can finally say I’m heading in the right direction.

And remember loneliness is not a state to remain for too long, it’s just a vehicle to a precise destination.
This might come as a surprise to most people I tend to wear dark colours like black and grey when I’m in a happy mood, but wear colours when my mood is dark (mostly to cheer me up); mainly the reason why my wardrobe is field with dark colours and the funny thing is I just realized this recently(thanks to a little loneliness haha!) so it easy to guess my mood from this outfit.

Stay great guys.


  1. Wow such a beautiful colour combo of the dress and belt! Very feminine and chic, love it!

  2. Doing things alone sometimes can be a really good thing. I love being independent as much as I enjoy being with people. Great post!

    District of Chic

  3. Great comments on loneliness! It can work wonders if you need to be focused or to work on a project or need some alone time just to think and be creative! Thank you for leaving me a comment today!

    Kiss kiss,

    adorn la femme

  4. You made a great study on loneliness. I agree with you in all the points. I loved number three( it helps you to appreciate important people in your life) and five ( it brings out a deeper you) I live alone , I mean with no one in my appartment but I never feel alone. I have my family, friends...I loved the combination of purple dress with the pink belt and fucshia shoes. It is really good! Kisses and I wish you the best for this weekend, Sandra:)

  5. Lovely colors!

    Loneliness is a scary feeling and I really do not want to ever feel that again. But as you said, there is something good that comes with from the bad. Loneliness may be a negative feeling but it does allow you to realise certain things about your life like realising your dreams and realising the important things in life.

    The Pink Lemonade Girl

  6. i definitely agree that loneliness can be a good thing and help you grow as a person! and you're looking lovely, too:-) that dress and the colours of your outfit look great on you! x

  7. Marvelous dress, you are very pretty :)

  8. You look so gorgeous and enchanting in your outfit dear <3


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  10. Lovely look and great giveaway!
    Have a nice week!
    Angela Donava


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